Adopt a Child Blogs

February 6, 2013, 1:46 pm

Until quite recently, a couple turning to adoption because they are unable or unwilling to utilize fertility treatments to conceive a mutually biological child also had to make peace with not experiencing pregnancy and childbirth.  Today, it is possible to give birth to one’s adopted child.  For...

February 16, 2013, 5:52 pm

My soon-to-be three-year-old nephew is staying with my parents for a few weeks.  When I went to visit with them the other day, he was as I remember him from nearly a year ago – cuddly, adorable, all smiles.  As we played together, he started calling me “mama”.  My mom was quick to inform me that he...

February 19, 2013, 11:12 am

We pursued older child adoption for over a year.  After over a year of trying to adopt a newborn independently, I began to question my motives.  I realized that newborns were much more “sought-after” than older children, and I wondered if we couldn’t adopt an older child. I made a list of pros...

March 12, 2013, 8:41 am

Many people who come to adoption after infertility already know that there is a grief process involved once one realizes that one will not have genetic children.  I never considered this as a big deal during the first several years of trying to adopt.  My genes were not all that great, what’s the...

March 15, 2013, 5:06 pm

For years, my husband and I were big proponents of openness in adoption.  From the first attempt at adopting, we sought out situations where the birth family was interested in maintaining contact over the years, so that the child would have a sense of continuity, get their questions answered...

April 3, 2013, 1:49 pm

Adoption is the legal and/or social establishment of a parent-child relationship where that relationship is not the natural result of marital sexual intimacy. Yet it seems that within this rather straight-forward definition, there are some who have a heart for traditional adoption and worry that...

April 18, 2013, 1:24 pm

Seven years ago, the first ultrasound of my only pregnancy showed me in no uncertain terms that I was about to become the mother of identical twins. My first reaction was elation, but it was edged with a tinge of sadness. I had agreed with my husband at the time that ours would be a two-child...

April 30, 2013, 7:39 pm

Getting custody of Alan, the little boy I'm hoping to adopt, became a real option for the first time earlier this year. Alan's mother was in crisis, and something was going to have to be done to ensure his well being. I originally put myself forward as a kinship carer in the hope that we...

May 5, 2013, 7:28 pm

I'm a single mom. I choose to involve others in the community in raising my kids, from their teachers to their godmother to family friends. When it comes to making the right call as a parent, two (or ten) minds can be better than one. I'm a big believer in raising my kids within a village of love...

May 16, 2013, 10:38 am

Both the American and British foster systems initially seek, in my experience, to enable birth parents to regain custody of their children. There are cases in which it seems clear to me that there is no hope for parents to change the circumstances that caused them to lose access to their children,...